It has been a long time with no posts. Things got extremely crazy in my work life, which made my personal life stall for some time (my stalled personal life is still probably about 4 times busier than most people's, but whatever!).
Old Boss - who I think I might actually use his real name for on here, stopped paying me. He was off wandering the world and not getting in touch at all. I had my suspicions about things not being exactly on the up and up with him and had started looking for a new job a few months ago. He proved me right and I literally didn't get paid for over a month. He was in Australia then somewhere in Asia (apparently in the depths of a jungle or something because I would get sporadic emails about not having internet access). Apparently he thinks I am stupid - there are probably about 2 places in all of the world that are not fully wired these days. Not to mention he is a trader as his primary business...what trader do you know that is not always wired????
In this time I got a few emails introducing new people to me that were now my new bosses or new people I would be reporting to, etc. These guys were all very strange and one of them was the most annoying person I have ever had the displeasure of dealing with. He is the guy who can talk for 2 hours and everything that needed to be covered could have actually taken 10 minutes. I did get a lot of house cleaning done while leaving him on speakerphone though.
It was during this time that everytime I spoke to someone about what was actually going on that everyone started using different names for Blayne (the name I know my boss as, but I think his name is actually Charles). I knew I had to get out quickly, so started looking harder for something new.
I managed to land my dream job a few weeks ago. I was so relieved to have a steady paying job and it really is what I want to be doing, so just extra bonus. I didn't tell Blayne I had taken a new job and didn't plan on it. There was no way he was going to pay me if he knew I was somewhere new.
I finally spoke to him after I had been at my new job about a week. He told me he was going through hard times...blah, blah, blah. I Googled him at this point and found this. He finally sent me some money (not everything he owed me...of course). I am still not sure how someone who steals $17 million can't pay me a few thousand, but at least I got something.
Obviously not knowing where my next meal was going to come from made me be somewhat quiet. Although my friends managed to enable me enough to still go out and have some fun a few nights.
In my previous post I mentioned Mr5Years and KS and they both disappeared. Mr5Years still puzzles me and I have no idea why he stopped contact. I think he is a complete pussy (not the first time he has done this, so he obviously is not an adult who can deal with things maturely). KS wasn't someone I thought would go anywhere from the start so I just stopped returning his calls eventually.
Since then I kind of cooled on dating and have been concentrating on the gym and work. This has been a good thing and I have been feeling great. This weekend was a crazy one and I am still recovering, but the one thing happened that I knew would happen eventually.
Thursday night I got my hair done and then Sarah and I went for wine. I met up with KB and friends and ended up at the Roxy. I came home at a reasonable hour and then stayed up most of the night on the phone with Toad trying to deal with the drama there (for the record he also muchly contributed to my money issues), so we had that to deal with.
Friday I worked all day and then went to S3 for drinks with ES and then we headed to GM for Fleetwood Mac. Most amazing concert ever. It was so great I really can't do it justice on here. We headed into YT after the concert for a bunch of food (damn you munchies!!) and CJ came and met us and him and I went to the Roxy again. It sucked...again. I was about to leave after one drink when I ran into a very drunk MM. I ended up hanging out with him for a few drinks and then decided to walk him home, which ended with me waking up in his bed. Ugh!
AT and I walked the seawall Saturday morning and then went for a boozy lunch at CC. We decided it would be fun to head out to the rodeo that night. I called JG and it was on. The three of us headed out to the burbs and did some predrinking at J's. We went to the rodeo and the line was ridiculous - there was no way we were getting in so we headed to Gabby's instead. AT and I had so much fun. There were High Five's everywhere and boys (real boys) everywhere. I ended up meeting one who really caught my fancy. We had so much fun together...dancing, shots, drinking. We ended up back at his buddy's and then back at J's at 5:30 am. AT and I decided to just come home. So, I drove home with no sleep at 6am (so not smart). I got home and crashed.
I got up and headed to M&D's for backyard fun. It was so hot back there - I got completely sunburned (dumb!). We ended up BBQing and hanging out all night. I finally crashed at 4am and was up at about 9 heading home. Kind of a pattern.
Yesterday I barely left my couch. I was so exhausted. I have been in contact with BB (Burb boy) since we parted. He is coming in to see me tomorrow night and I have to say...this is the most excited I have been for a first date in a really long time. So, I guess we shall see.
I always knew I would never meet anyone I really like in Vancouver. My friends knew it too so no one was surprised that I met a Burbs boy who drives a truck. I evern told AT on the way out that I need to meet someone who can change oil or a tire. He sent me a text yesterday saying he was going to do both on his truck. So cute!
I am heading to Sasquatch this weekend for 5 days of concerts and good times with the girls. I cannot wait. Hopefully we will make it with our RV in tact! Haha.
So, I guess this is to be continued...
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Maybe this can help explain things
So, as mentioned in last post I currently have a few guys in my life that seem to have some sort of potential. I now realize it is me that has pretty much zero potential. I really know it!
I can't be all cool like a guy and talk sports and act all like "I am not a girl, I don't care" and then try to get upset when guys believe this attitude and don't do things I want them to.
Case in point. Mr 5 Years has a pretty firm handle on who I am and what I am like. He knows I have a porcupine-like exterior, but he also knows there is one of those pink-coloured mini marshmallows hiding in there somewhere (though he really has yet to see any of it (maybe a tiny tiny bit)) Yes I just used double parenthesis...whatever. Deal!
Mostly Mr 5 Years sees the girl who is always joking, talks sports, talks about jerking off (c'mon, everyone does it!) and speaks her mind. Anyway, he called me yesterday in the afternoon and asked me to a movie this evening. I thought it was sweet that he called so far in advance and planned something. Even though I am not sure how we will ever get passed making out if our dates continue to include others or be so chaste! Anyway, I was really excited about it all. He figured work would keep him busy late so it would have to be a late movie...fine by me!
He just texted, yes, texted! to say he is probably too busy for a movie tonight, even a late one. I sent him back a super cryptic, girly message back - what I actually wrote follows my name (what I wanted to write is in brackets):
Nic: Figured (fuck you - I turned down another date and 2 friends for this damn movie!)
Mr5Y: Not sure how I should take that
Nic: I know you're busy (You could have called dumbass!)
He then asked for my email address and forwarded me an email his brother sent to him after meeting me last weekend, which basically said how awesome he thinks I am. This guy is good. He knows how to get out of a hole!
Nic: Thanks. That was sweet. (Is your brother single? Maybe he will make time for me)
Mr5Y: After big meeting next week and other business shit (not his words - just how I interpreted them) is cleared up I will have more time and I would like to see you more.
Nic: That's nice to hear. I am just disappointed. (Whatever - I will believe it when I see it a-hole!)
But at least I got through to the point I was disappointed - even though it took 20 minutes! Mr5Y does not think this will phase me because he thinks I can take it. Well guess what - it bugged me a LOT! I actually got teary eyed. I am fairly certain it was from cutting up the onions at lunch, but still!
Here is the conversation I had with KS (the OTHER one) yesterday. He is currently staying with his brother in my burb cuz he just moved out here and relping with house renos and nanny duties. Weird, but whatever. He calls when he is watching the damn kids and it drives me f'n crazy. His nephew is always screaming like a little girl in the background. Anyway, this is how our conversation went:
Nic: How old is your nephew again? (I think I have asked him this about 4 times)
KS: 19 months
Nic: Oh, so like 2
KS: No, like 19 months
Nic: 19 months 2 years same thing
KS: actually not really
This is when I realize that 2 years = 24 months not 20 like my brain was telling me.
Nic: right, well he is closer to 2 than 1
KS: I guess
Nic: either way, isn't that a lot of screaming for a kid that age?
KS: Ya, I should go now
KS actually called later to apologize for calling when the kids were dumping bowls of KD in their head, but I am fairly certain he learned I am not all that into his underlings. Whatevs!
Something tells me my 2 front runners are going to end up tieing for last place!
I can't be all cool like a guy and talk sports and act all like "I am not a girl, I don't care" and then try to get upset when guys believe this attitude and don't do things I want them to.
Case in point. Mr 5 Years has a pretty firm handle on who I am and what I am like. He knows I have a porcupine-like exterior, but he also knows there is one of those pink-coloured mini marshmallows hiding in there somewhere (though he really has yet to see any of it (maybe a tiny tiny bit)) Yes I just used double parenthesis...whatever. Deal!
Mostly Mr 5 Years sees the girl who is always joking, talks sports, talks about jerking off (c'mon, everyone does it!) and speaks her mind. Anyway, he called me yesterday in the afternoon and asked me to a movie this evening. I thought it was sweet that he called so far in advance and planned something. Even though I am not sure how we will ever get passed making out if our dates continue to include others or be so chaste! Anyway, I was really excited about it all. He figured work would keep him busy late so it would have to be a late movie...fine by me!
He just texted, yes, texted! to say he is probably too busy for a movie tonight, even a late one. I sent him back a super cryptic, girly message back - what I actually wrote follows my name (what I wanted to write is in brackets):
Nic: Figured (fuck you - I turned down another date and 2 friends for this damn movie!)
Mr5Y: Not sure how I should take that
Nic: I know you're busy (You could have called dumbass!)
He then asked for my email address and forwarded me an email his brother sent to him after meeting me last weekend, which basically said how awesome he thinks I am. This guy is good. He knows how to get out of a hole!
Nic: Thanks. That was sweet. (Is your brother single? Maybe he will make time for me)
Mr5Y: After big meeting next week and other business shit (not his words - just how I interpreted them) is cleared up I will have more time and I would like to see you more.
Nic: That's nice to hear. I am just disappointed. (Whatever - I will believe it when I see it a-hole!)
But at least I got through to the point I was disappointed - even though it took 20 minutes! Mr5Y does not think this will phase me because he thinks I can take it. Well guess what - it bugged me a LOT! I actually got teary eyed. I am fairly certain it was from cutting up the onions at lunch, but still!
Here is the conversation I had with KS (the OTHER one) yesterday. He is currently staying with his brother in my burb cuz he just moved out here and relping with house renos and nanny duties. Weird, but whatever. He calls when he is watching the damn kids and it drives me f'n crazy. His nephew is always screaming like a little girl in the background. Anyway, this is how our conversation went:
Nic: How old is your nephew again? (I think I have asked him this about 4 times)
KS: 19 months
Nic: Oh, so like 2
KS: No, like 19 months
Nic: 19 months 2 years same thing
KS: actually not really
This is when I realize that 2 years = 24 months not 20 like my brain was telling me.
Nic: right, well he is closer to 2 than 1
KS: I guess
Nic: either way, isn't that a lot of screaming for a kid that age?
KS: Ya, I should go now
KS actually called later to apologize for calling when the kids were dumping bowls of KD in their head, but I am fairly certain he learned I am not all that into his underlings. Whatevs!
Something tells me my 2 front runners are going to end up tieing for last place!
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
And...we're off!
After an entirely crazy weekend I am finally feeling somewhat human. I need to get to the gym before I am 100%. That will be happening in the next few hours.
So, to sort of pick up where I left off...I did end up going out with Mr 5 Years after my last post. We met up for a hockey game and dinner and drinks a few days after that post. We had a really great time. Our chemistry is so bang on it is kind of scary. We have a lot in common and know a lot of the same people. Our first kiss was the kind that leaves you feeling somewhat breathless. So, it was all in all a good date.
We went out again this past Friday night. We were supposed to go to a movie with his brother and his friend, but by the time they finished watching their beloved hockey team they were quite late getting me and none of us had eaten, so we ended up just going for dinner and drinks. We both know the owner of the restaurant we went to and he knew a lot of the staff. We all ended up going to PO with the staff after dinner. It wasn't my scene, but it was nice to have some somewhat alone time with Mr 5 Years. We have a hard time keeping our hands off of each other, but have both decided we are not rushing into anything. We are very honest with each other, so it is good to just take things slow (for now). I did tell him that I do feel like I want to see him more than we should be right now and he totally understood that. We talk every day...I guess we will see how things go there.
Saturday I had the family over and we went to a play. It was really good. We went for dinner after and then I came home and relaxed for a while then headed to Kits for poker night with the boys. It ended up being really fun. I met CP's best friend and him and I hit it off amazingly well, but of course he lives over 3,000 km away. I might see him again before he heads home, but no big deal there. He might be moving out here, in which case I would for sure see him again, but no point of anything unless he does.
I got home sometime Sunday morning and showered and had somehow planned 2 dates. Ooops. I cancelled one and the other one got delayed and wasn't sure when he was available. I ended up going for a boozy brunch with AT and the girls met up with us and had drinks on the patio. After a few too many drinks KS called and said he could come to meet me now. I had to kind of give him the head's up that we had already had a bottle of wine so I might be a little tipsy for our date. He was fine with it and came and met me on the patio. Talk about walking into a shit storm! This was our first date and he was meeting the friends in the first 2 minutes. He was totally fine and everyone got along with him great. We took off and came here so I could change. We decided to go for a walk and we ended up on the AquaBus and took a harbor tour. He just moved here 3 weeks ago, so has not seen any of the city yet, so I decided to play tour guide. We ended up on Granville Island and walked around a bit and then went to Bridges for some wine. After some more walking we took the Bus back and went to LaBodega for sangria and appies. After we finished up there we came back to my place and the girls were texting and they wanted to head out. We went and met them at Earls YT. They had some friends with them as well, so it ended up being quite the little crew. We ended up at the Roller (ugh!)
KS got along really well with everyone and we ended up having a great time. I got home and flopped onto my bed and passed out. KS slept on my couch and was freezing. I brought him into my room and we snuggled for the morning and afternoon. I was pretty damn hungover all day yesterday. Today I am in serious need of a workout and then I will be 100%.
So, as usual when it rains it pours. I am not sure what is going to happen with either (or any) of these guys, but it is nice to have met some non-douchebags who I actually like.
This weekend is shaping up to be a crazy one too. I need a break!
So, to sort of pick up where I left off...I did end up going out with Mr 5 Years after my last post. We met up for a hockey game and dinner and drinks a few days after that post. We had a really great time. Our chemistry is so bang on it is kind of scary. We have a lot in common and know a lot of the same people. Our first kiss was the kind that leaves you feeling somewhat breathless. So, it was all in all a good date.
We went out again this past Friday night. We were supposed to go to a movie with his brother and his friend, but by the time they finished watching their beloved hockey team they were quite late getting me and none of us had eaten, so we ended up just going for dinner and drinks. We both know the owner of the restaurant we went to and he knew a lot of the staff. We all ended up going to PO with the staff after dinner. It wasn't my scene, but it was nice to have some somewhat alone time with Mr 5 Years. We have a hard time keeping our hands off of each other, but have both decided we are not rushing into anything. We are very honest with each other, so it is good to just take things slow (for now). I did tell him that I do feel like I want to see him more than we should be right now and he totally understood that. We talk every day...I guess we will see how things go there.
Saturday I had the family over and we went to a play. It was really good. We went for dinner after and then I came home and relaxed for a while then headed to Kits for poker night with the boys. It ended up being really fun. I met CP's best friend and him and I hit it off amazingly well, but of course he lives over 3,000 km away. I might see him again before he heads home, but no big deal there. He might be moving out here, in which case I would for sure see him again, but no point of anything unless he does.
I got home sometime Sunday morning and showered and had somehow planned 2 dates. Ooops. I cancelled one and the other one got delayed and wasn't sure when he was available. I ended up going for a boozy brunch with AT and the girls met up with us and had drinks on the patio. After a few too many drinks KS called and said he could come to meet me now. I had to kind of give him the head's up that we had already had a bottle of wine so I might be a little tipsy for our date. He was fine with it and came and met me on the patio. Talk about walking into a shit storm! This was our first date and he was meeting the friends in the first 2 minutes. He was totally fine and everyone got along with him great. We took off and came here so I could change. We decided to go for a walk and we ended up on the AquaBus and took a harbor tour. He just moved here 3 weeks ago, so has not seen any of the city yet, so I decided to play tour guide. We ended up on Granville Island and walked around a bit and then went to Bridges for some wine. After some more walking we took the Bus back and went to LaBodega for sangria and appies. After we finished up there we came back to my place and the girls were texting and they wanted to head out. We went and met them at Earls YT. They had some friends with them as well, so it ended up being quite the little crew. We ended up at the Roller (ugh!)
KS got along really well with everyone and we ended up having a great time. I got home and flopped onto my bed and passed out. KS slept on my couch and was freezing. I brought him into my room and we snuggled for the morning and afternoon. I was pretty damn hungover all day yesterday. Today I am in serious need of a workout and then I will be 100%.
So, as usual when it rains it pours. I am not sure what is going to happen with either (or any) of these guys, but it is nice to have met some non-douchebags who I actually like.
This weekend is shaping up to be a crazy one too. I need a break!
Thursday, March 5, 2009
I Know it is Me!
So, after the last post I saw a lot of MM. He made me dinner that night at his place, which was lovely. We had a bunch of wine and I ended up crashing there. I saw him later on Friday night after Lea and Stace left from a drinking/gabbing session. I should have known it was not a good idea for him to come over when Lea and I were leaving to head out and I got in my elevator, walked into my lobby and turned around and came back to my apartment because I was way too loaded to go out. He came by a bit after that and we both basically passed out.
I went hiking all day Saturday with AT - 3 hours of hiking at UBC was insane. Neither of us planned to go that long, but we got somewhat lost on the trail and ended up pretty much as far away as possible from our starting point. I knew we were in trouble when I asked someone on a trail the way back to Spanish Banks and their face registered alarm. It ended up being an awesome workout though, so all good.
I got back from hiking and had a quick shower and DA and i went to new Earl's for food (for her) and beer for me. After insulting the waiter as much as we could Clark showed up and we all decided to head to DA's with wine for the night. After MUCH wine I decided it would be wise to invite MM over. Why oh why would I invite someone over to meet by besties when I wasn't sure I liked him??? Of course they loved him. We came back to my place that night and basically both passed out again.
Sunday I met AT for lunch in YT and ES came and met us afterwards. The 3 of us took the dog and went for a long seawall jaunt. It was really nice out. After the walk I came home and did chores around the house. I went over to Toady's for the game (MM went to it with coworkers and was heading out with them afterwards). He called me after and invited me to join them. Again, I have no idea why (damn booze!) His coworkers were great and we had some drinks and they all took off. MM and I went to IrishPub and drank beers and played darts. At some point in the night I finally agreed to not see other people (again, why???) I woke up at his place Monday morning wondering what the hell I had agreed to. I knew I couldn't do it and not into him enough to put him through my ridiculousness. I left there in a hurry and came home.
Tuesday DA came by in the afternoon. Now that I have beautiful home office she comes by in between appointments and works with me here. She was getting ready to go to another appointment and Clark called a little tipsy from a business lunch, so she came over with a few bottles of wine and the 3 of us started drinking at about 4:30 on a Tuesday. Jesus!! After some drinks and pizza and Clark's BF stopping by I was alone and realized I had to do the deed. I called MM and told him this wasn't going to work for me. He kind of got the hint on Monday morning, but still he was not happy. I think I apologized 6 times. I am an idiot! Another one bites the dust. I have never been in a situation where I dated someone I wasn't physically attracted to and I thought if I liked the person enough it wouldn't matter. Turns out I was wrong!
Yesterday I trained with DA's trainer. It was awesome to get back into that. It is such a good workout. I was supposed to go to DA's for dinner later, but our wires got crossed and by the time we touched base we were both bagged and I just decided to get some food and stay home.
I was up at 5:30 this morning for hot yoga, went to Richmond to get a monitor from the office, filled up, washed my car, got groceries and showered and got ready before 10 am! It is noon and feels like it is about 8 pm. So productive! ExT texted yesterday to see if I wanted to get coffee today. We haven't seen each other in a long time, so I figured why not. He just called and somehow he mentioned that he is living in Kits now...with his GF...who he BOUGHT a place with. Wow! I don't care about him in that way anymore, but holy fuck it was still like a punch in the stomach. He still wants to get together this afternoon, but I am not sure I am going to do it now. Argh!
In the craziness of all of this I actually have a prospect I am super excited about. If this date happens it will be a first date 5 years in the making (maybe even longer). About 5 years ago Lea and I were at the BC Lions Western Championship. I was in the beer lineup (Duh!) and a guy came up to me and whispered something in my ear and walked off. I didn't quite get what he said and just wrote it off as a drunk at a CFL game, which is usually the entire crowd. Anyway, I went back to my seat and he was 2 rows behind me. We kept smiling at each other throughout the day. After the game he came over and told me he had seen my on an online dating site. Ahhhhh...OK, so not just a drunk at a CFL game...a drunk at a CFL game who is also a creepy online stalker! Haha. Anyway, the next day he emailed me on said site and we stayed in touch, but nothing ever came of it. I ran into him at bars a few times and there was always flirting, but again nothing. One of these nights I did give him my number and we had a date all planned for a Friday night. There were lots of flirty texts leading up to it and the day of he called to let me know he had an emergency at work, so it was a no go. For whatever reason we never rescheduled. We have been FB friends for quite some time and I noticed when he added me he had a gf (or at least it seemed he did, so I never got in touch). Cue to Tuesday night - I am back on said dating site and I see his profile. I emailed him to laugh and say hi. He emailed me back immediately and said he was just sending me an email at the same time to ask if we should finally have the date. After many back and forth emails he called and we chatted for a while and it looks like this time we are actually going to go out. There has been flirty texting since then, so this could be interesting. The anticipation of 5 years could ruin this one, but it is nice to be excited about something!
The same night this was all happening DA had left here and was on her way home when she got a call from an old friend. He was at a pub with some friends so she went by. One of his friends was single and DA thought he was cute so she emailed me his pic. He added me to BBM and we started chatting. I know nothing about this guy, but we are supposed to go out for drinks tonight. It was a busy night!
Reporting on my disastorous dating life one failure after another!
I went hiking all day Saturday with AT - 3 hours of hiking at UBC was insane. Neither of us planned to go that long, but we got somewhat lost on the trail and ended up pretty much as far away as possible from our starting point. I knew we were in trouble when I asked someone on a trail the way back to Spanish Banks and their face registered alarm. It ended up being an awesome workout though, so all good.
I got back from hiking and had a quick shower and DA and i went to new Earl's for food (for her) and beer for me. After insulting the waiter as much as we could Clark showed up and we all decided to head to DA's with wine for the night. After MUCH wine I decided it would be wise to invite MM over. Why oh why would I invite someone over to meet by besties when I wasn't sure I liked him??? Of course they loved him. We came back to my place that night and basically both passed out again.
Sunday I met AT for lunch in YT and ES came and met us afterwards. The 3 of us took the dog and went for a long seawall jaunt. It was really nice out. After the walk I came home and did chores around the house. I went over to Toady's for the game (MM went to it with coworkers and was heading out with them afterwards). He called me after and invited me to join them. Again, I have no idea why (damn booze!) His coworkers were great and we had some drinks and they all took off. MM and I went to IrishPub and drank beers and played darts. At some point in the night I finally agreed to not see other people (again, why???) I woke up at his place Monday morning wondering what the hell I had agreed to. I knew I couldn't do it and not into him enough to put him through my ridiculousness. I left there in a hurry and came home.
Tuesday DA came by in the afternoon. Now that I have beautiful home office she comes by in between appointments and works with me here. She was getting ready to go to another appointment and Clark called a little tipsy from a business lunch, so she came over with a few bottles of wine and the 3 of us started drinking at about 4:30 on a Tuesday. Jesus!! After some drinks and pizza and Clark's BF stopping by I was alone and realized I had to do the deed. I called MM and told him this wasn't going to work for me. He kind of got the hint on Monday morning, but still he was not happy. I think I apologized 6 times. I am an idiot! Another one bites the dust. I have never been in a situation where I dated someone I wasn't physically attracted to and I thought if I liked the person enough it wouldn't matter. Turns out I was wrong!
Yesterday I trained with DA's trainer. It was awesome to get back into that. It is such a good workout. I was supposed to go to DA's for dinner later, but our wires got crossed and by the time we touched base we were both bagged and I just decided to get some food and stay home.
I was up at 5:30 this morning for hot yoga, went to Richmond to get a monitor from the office, filled up, washed my car, got groceries and showered and got ready before 10 am! It is noon and feels like it is about 8 pm. So productive! ExT texted yesterday to see if I wanted to get coffee today. We haven't seen each other in a long time, so I figured why not. He just called and somehow he mentioned that he is living in Kits now...with his GF...who he BOUGHT a place with. Wow! I don't care about him in that way anymore, but holy fuck it was still like a punch in the stomach. He still wants to get together this afternoon, but I am not sure I am going to do it now. Argh!
In the craziness of all of this I actually have a prospect I am super excited about. If this date happens it will be a first date 5 years in the making (maybe even longer). About 5 years ago Lea and I were at the BC Lions Western Championship. I was in the beer lineup (Duh!) and a guy came up to me and whispered something in my ear and walked off. I didn't quite get what he said and just wrote it off as a drunk at a CFL game, which is usually the entire crowd. Anyway, I went back to my seat and he was 2 rows behind me. We kept smiling at each other throughout the day. After the game he came over and told me he had seen my on an online dating site. Ahhhhh...OK, so not just a drunk at a CFL game...a drunk at a CFL game who is also a creepy online stalker! Haha. Anyway, the next day he emailed me on said site and we stayed in touch, but nothing ever came of it. I ran into him at bars a few times and there was always flirting, but again nothing. One of these nights I did give him my number and we had a date all planned for a Friday night. There were lots of flirty texts leading up to it and the day of he called to let me know he had an emergency at work, so it was a no go. For whatever reason we never rescheduled. We have been FB friends for quite some time and I noticed when he added me he had a gf (or at least it seemed he did, so I never got in touch). Cue to Tuesday night - I am back on said dating site and I see his profile. I emailed him to laugh and say hi. He emailed me back immediately and said he was just sending me an email at the same time to ask if we should finally have the date. After many back and forth emails he called and we chatted for a while and it looks like this time we are actually going to go out. There has been flirty texting since then, so this could be interesting. The anticipation of 5 years could ruin this one, but it is nice to be excited about something!
The same night this was all happening DA had left here and was on her way home when she got a call from an old friend. He was at a pub with some friends so she went by. One of his friends was single and DA thought he was cute so she emailed me his pic. He added me to BBM and we started chatting. I know nothing about this guy, but we are supposed to go out for drinks tonight. It was a busy night!
Reporting on my disastorous dating life one failure after another!
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
I seem to have been somewhat preoccupied with work, dating and ridiculousness lately so have not been updating. I am not even sure where to begin. I have gone on a few dates, but nothing I was blown away by...OK, that is not entirely true, but the bad have outweighed the good. Here is one of the bad:
I went for drinks with OldYT Guy last Thursday night. Here is the thing: he is a very good looking guy, but super geeky. I wan't even aware that you could still be geeky at 39, but he was. I also tend to like a guy who is somewhat on the geeky side, so that must mean he was super over the top geeky. I sometimes think that if my mood was different a date could go completely the other way. He had planned for him to come and pick me up at 8 - after he was done at some work event. He didn't come until 9:30 (he did call, but still!) By the time he got here I was annoyed and tired after a full day of working out and working. We went for drinks and some snacks and I tried to get over my annoyance, but it just didn't happen. I moved away every time he tried to touch me and leaned forward when he put his arm across the back of the booth. I was still being nice, but not flirty at all. He dropped me off and went in for a full on open mouth kiss. I flew out of the car as quick as I could. Post script to this date: Queen and Heart sound nothing alike (noted by the fact that one has a female singer and one a male) and Heart is not classic rock just like a 1985 Camaro is NOT a hot rod!!!!
The other bad ones are too generic to even bother with. Drinks, crappy conversation, blah, blah, blah.
I also went out a few times with SD, who was one of the best first dates ever. We ate and drank and almost got on a flight to Vegas at 1 am after hitting at least 5 different spots and drinking as many bottles of wine. We decided it was probably not a good idea and went to the casino instead. Somehow we both managed to win money, but not exactly sure how. Talk about a Sunday Funday. Monday at work was not that fun. We chatted throughout the day and he called and said he was going to come over Monday night and make some food (he is a trained chef) and have some wine. After getting a few confusing texts after that he showed up at my place with no food or wine and completely drunk. He failed to mention in our phone conversation that he was drinking all day. He also forgot about the phone conversation we had that he said he would make me dinner in. OK, pizza it is. He insisted he wanted to watch a movie so I ordered one and he passed out on my leg. Wonderful! The best part if that the one character (the asshole) in the movie totally reminded me of JG, so I texted to tell him this and we ended up texting back and forth throughout the movie. He thought it was pretty funny that my "date" was passed out on my couch.
SD came over on Friday night when he got off work. I had a bunch of people here playing poker and having drinks. He got along with everyone and we had a good time, but I knew it couldn't go anywhere. He actually left to go home today for an indeterminate amount of time due to his father being terminally ill; he is not expected to live throughout this week. No wonder the kid is drinking so much! So, maybe some other time.
Saturday Toad and I went for lunch and drank beer and watched Hockey Day in Canada all day. I left at about 7 and met T at my place. We headed out to meet JG and friend and ended up downtown having more drinks. After running into EngagedGuy we left and got pizza and came to my place. We all got up in the morning for an early breakfast before JG and B headed back to the burbs. EngagedGuy texted me all Sunday and tried to come over. Douchebag!
Sunday I ran around a bunch and then headed to G for the Oscar part and Jen's birthday. We ended up having a complete blast; open bar and buffet. It was so good. After a few hours we decided to head to the Roxy (where else would you wrap up a Sunday Funday). A lot of shots and drinks later I was on the dance floor (how does that happen??) Did I mention I was wearing a tiny black dress and very high stilletos for the Oscar party??? Ya, I was that chick at the Roxy!
Somehow I ended up chatting with a guy who was really nice and we found out we live across the street from one another. After all of the "no sex" reassurances we went to his place for a glass of wine and decided to watch a movie. I totally passed out in the typical Nic fashion...snoring very loudly and unmovable. After MM tried to wake me up for a while he went to bed. I woke up in the morning on his couch...very short dress now riding up somewhere around my waist, stilletos still on, snoring loudly (yes I even caught myself snoring). It took me a few minutes to figure out where I was and also remembered there was talk of MM having a roommate. After walking by an empty room I sneakily tried to open the other bedroom door, but of course it was the squeakiest door ever! MM woke up and kind of just laughed at me. He pulled me into bed with him and we ended up talking for quite some time (mostly laughing at the site his roommate would have woken to). After an hour nap I told him he had to make the walk of shame with me (trust me, this one was bad!!!) I really needed a coffee (his Starbucks is also mine - he didn't want to take me there because I looked so trampy!) but we went anyway and ran into 2 of his ex cowrokers (he used to work at the attached hotel). Sometimes this city is just too small!
We got our coffees to go and came to my place...I got changed and we went for lunch in YT. We just click. There is no weirdness and we are just super comfortable with eah other. He walked me home after we took a short walk in the rain - i had to head to my chiro to pay them. He had some things to do and then came over again later on and took me for sushi. Kind of like 3 dates in 24 hours. I don't think I have ever done that.
He is having me over for dinner tonight. Apparently he can also cook. So far so good. I actually had a chiro appointment this morning and my chiro's mom (the receptionist) told me that my boyfriend is very nice and we make a great couple. I had to laugh at that one.
So that is mostly up to current. I will keep you posted on MM and everything else upcoming!
I went for drinks with OldYT Guy last Thursday night. Here is the thing: he is a very good looking guy, but super geeky. I wan't even aware that you could still be geeky at 39, but he was. I also tend to like a guy who is somewhat on the geeky side, so that must mean he was super over the top geeky. I sometimes think that if my mood was different a date could go completely the other way. He had planned for him to come and pick me up at 8 - after he was done at some work event. He didn't come until 9:30 (he did call, but still!) By the time he got here I was annoyed and tired after a full day of working out and working. We went for drinks and some snacks and I tried to get over my annoyance, but it just didn't happen. I moved away every time he tried to touch me and leaned forward when he put his arm across the back of the booth. I was still being nice, but not flirty at all. He dropped me off and went in for a full on open mouth kiss. I flew out of the car as quick as I could. Post script to this date: Queen and Heart sound nothing alike (noted by the fact that one has a female singer and one a male) and Heart is not classic rock just like a 1985 Camaro is NOT a hot rod!!!!
The other bad ones are too generic to even bother with. Drinks, crappy conversation, blah, blah, blah.
I also went out a few times with SD, who was one of the best first dates ever. We ate and drank and almost got on a flight to Vegas at 1 am after hitting at least 5 different spots and drinking as many bottles of wine. We decided it was probably not a good idea and went to the casino instead. Somehow we both managed to win money, but not exactly sure how. Talk about a Sunday Funday. Monday at work was not that fun. We chatted throughout the day and he called and said he was going to come over Monday night and make some food (he is a trained chef) and have some wine. After getting a few confusing texts after that he showed up at my place with no food or wine and completely drunk. He failed to mention in our phone conversation that he was drinking all day. He also forgot about the phone conversation we had that he said he would make me dinner in. OK, pizza it is. He insisted he wanted to watch a movie so I ordered one and he passed out on my leg. Wonderful! The best part if that the one character (the asshole) in the movie totally reminded me of JG, so I texted to tell him this and we ended up texting back and forth throughout the movie. He thought it was pretty funny that my "date" was passed out on my couch.
SD came over on Friday night when he got off work. I had a bunch of people here playing poker and having drinks. He got along with everyone and we had a good time, but I knew it couldn't go anywhere. He actually left to go home today for an indeterminate amount of time due to his father being terminally ill; he is not expected to live throughout this week. No wonder the kid is drinking so much! So, maybe some other time.
Saturday Toad and I went for lunch and drank beer and watched Hockey Day in Canada all day. I left at about 7 and met T at my place. We headed out to meet JG and friend and ended up downtown having more drinks. After running into EngagedGuy we left and got pizza and came to my place. We all got up in the morning for an early breakfast before JG and B headed back to the burbs. EngagedGuy texted me all Sunday and tried to come over. Douchebag!
Sunday I ran around a bunch and then headed to G for the Oscar part and Jen's birthday. We ended up having a complete blast; open bar and buffet. It was so good. After a few hours we decided to head to the Roxy (where else would you wrap up a Sunday Funday). A lot of shots and drinks later I was on the dance floor (how does that happen??) Did I mention I was wearing a tiny black dress and very high stilletos for the Oscar party??? Ya, I was that chick at the Roxy!
Somehow I ended up chatting with a guy who was really nice and we found out we live across the street from one another. After all of the "no sex" reassurances we went to his place for a glass of wine and decided to watch a movie. I totally passed out in the typical Nic fashion...snoring very loudly and unmovable. After MM tried to wake me up for a while he went to bed. I woke up in the morning on his couch...very short dress now riding up somewhere around my waist, stilletos still on, snoring loudly (yes I even caught myself snoring). It took me a few minutes to figure out where I was and also remembered there was talk of MM having a roommate. After walking by an empty room I sneakily tried to open the other bedroom door, but of course it was the squeakiest door ever! MM woke up and kind of just laughed at me. He pulled me into bed with him and we ended up talking for quite some time (mostly laughing at the site his roommate would have woken to). After an hour nap I told him he had to make the walk of shame with me (trust me, this one was bad!!!) I really needed a coffee (his Starbucks is also mine - he didn't want to take me there because I looked so trampy!) but we went anyway and ran into 2 of his ex cowrokers (he used to work at the attached hotel). Sometimes this city is just too small!
We got our coffees to go and came to my place...I got changed and we went for lunch in YT. We just click. There is no weirdness and we are just super comfortable with eah other. He walked me home after we took a short walk in the rain - i had to head to my chiro to pay them. He had some things to do and then came over again later on and took me for sushi. Kind of like 3 dates in 24 hours. I don't think I have ever done that.
He is having me over for dinner tonight. Apparently he can also cook. So far so good. I actually had a chiro appointment this morning and my chiro's mom (the receptionist) told me that my boyfriend is very nice and we make a great couple. I had to laugh at that one.
So that is mostly up to current. I will keep you posted on MM and everything else upcoming!
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
I should listen to those voices in my head
As predicted things went very badly with NewF this weekend and I will not be seeing him again. Haha. I should have known better than to even waste my time seeing him Saturday, but I figured seeing him would make me know for sure what I was feeling. I should have listened to myself. I had the opportunity to go out and have fun and instead went over to his place. Needless to say, I was home before midnight. Oh well, it least it as a quiet night and I was up early Sunday morning for yoga!
I needed the quiet night after Friday night. A few of us went for dinner and drinks and then to G for more drinks. D and SIL left pretty early and I was already pretty buzzed. The guys were going to BN for a stag, which they tried to get me to go on, but I figured it was better to not go considering I was already pretty drunk. I went home and Toad came over and we ended up staying up into the wee hours. I actually woke up feeling OK Saturday and even managed the gym. I ran a bunch of errands throughout the day (I am probably the only person who considers shopping running errands!) haha.
Sunday was a good day. After yoga I got ready and headed out for actual errands. I took my broken purse that I bought over a year ago back to the store (something I had been putting off for months) and they gave me a brand new purse. I was so shocked. The new purse was actually less than the original, so they gave me the difference in cash. So I walked out with a new $200 purse and $20 in my pocket! I was ecstatic.
Sunday evening Cam came by and we went to Earl's for some snacks and drinks, which turned into quite a few drinks, which turned into going to LaB(he had never been) for sangria and mussels and then back to my place for a bottle of wine. I said I was in the mood for a Sunday Funday!! It was a good time. Not sure if I will see him again in a romantic sense, but either way he is fun.
I not into more posting at the moment...just wanted a weekend recap!
I needed the quiet night after Friday night. A few of us went for dinner and drinks and then to G for more drinks. D and SIL left pretty early and I was already pretty buzzed. The guys were going to BN for a stag, which they tried to get me to go on, but I figured it was better to not go considering I was already pretty drunk. I went home and Toad came over and we ended up staying up into the wee hours. I actually woke up feeling OK Saturday and even managed the gym. I ran a bunch of errands throughout the day (I am probably the only person who considers shopping running errands!) haha.
Sunday was a good day. After yoga I got ready and headed out for actual errands. I took my broken purse that I bought over a year ago back to the store (something I had been putting off for months) and they gave me a brand new purse. I was so shocked. The new purse was actually less than the original, so they gave me the difference in cash. So I walked out with a new $200 purse and $20 in my pocket! I was ecstatic.
Sunday evening Cam came by and we went to Earl's for some snacks and drinks, which turned into quite a few drinks, which turned into going to LaB(he had never been) for sangria and mussels and then back to my place for a bottle of wine. I said I was in the mood for a Sunday Funday!! It was a good time. Not sure if I will see him again in a romantic sense, but either way he is fun.
I not into more posting at the moment...just wanted a weekend recap!
Friday, February 6, 2009
Am I doing this on purpose?
So, I have not seen NewGuy (who will now be called NewF - I give him a name just in time for him to disappear...Perfect!) since last weekend. Our schedules during the week or somewhat at odds. I am a morning workout person and he is a night workout person, so it doesn't seem to work during the week for us. Having said that I don't think going out to a movie or a drink sometime after 8 is ridiculous, but I think NewF does. So, he somewhat reserved me for Saturday, which seemed like it was going to be a bowling date. He emailed me this morning (as he always does) and let me know he is going skiing tomorrow and will be home at about 5 or so. I have to admit I got a little irrationaly when I read it. I want him to do his thing and all, but we all know after a day of skiing and 3 hours of travel to get there and back he is not going to be a lot of fun.
I let him know that we could postpone Saturday night because he would be tired, but he said no it was fine "as long as I don't mind a chill night". OK, here's the thing...I do! It is Saturday night. The night for fun, not the night for chill. This is our 4th date and a Saturday night. We should be going out for dinner and drinks and getting drunk and making out inappropriately on street corners, not laying on his couch watching movies...that is for like 6 months into a relationship not 3 weeks!
I also had a girl's night offer from some really fun girls I know, so I am not sure if it is just that I don't want to miss out on that (to be honest, I am not really that into it, so I don't think it is that). Am I being ridiculous? Is it normal to feel like this?
I emailed him and told him we should just play it by ear and see how he feels. What I really mean is "let's play it by ear and see how I feel". If I want to tear it up tomorrow night then I am going to.
Here is my other thought though. Sunday Funday seems to be calling my name this week, so maybe a chill Saturday night would be good, so that early brunch is possible on Sunday.
I know, I know...my life is so tough. I guess if my plans for Saturday night are my biggest worry then I really shouldn't be complaining. I think I am just venting...not complaining. At the end of the day we all know I am going to do what I want to do anyway. I just wish I knew what that was!
Tonight I am heading out with D & SIL for dinner and drinks and then more drinks and then more drinks. I haven't seen SIL in a long time and D and I thought she could probably use a night on the town. It should be good times.
I have worked out twice today already and I feel like I could go again. This hot yoga really gives you energy. I could have ran forever at the gym this afternoon. For the record EngagedGuy from previous post was not at the gym today though he did Facebook chat with me first thing this morning. The whole thing is weird. Also, weierd is his buddy is the guy I ran into at the gym last week (and who has been trying for 5 years). While EngagedGuy was chatting his buddy also started Facebook chatting with me! They were probably on the phone with each other conspiring to drive me mad! Further proof that the gym is a bad place where bad things happen! I might have to stick to my apartment gym. Everyone ignores each other there!
I also have a guy who I dated a few times getting in on the texting and Facebook chatting fury that has been happening. We will call him Welshie. This is a relationship that basically moved into friends with benefits (or at least he thought). Now that I am showing no interest he is all over me. Always the way. I am going to do this with every guy from now on. Actually I am going to turn super stalker psycho on the guys I don't like in the hopes that they will go away!
Did I mention that T has been texting and wanting to get together too?? Ya, now that he is basically living with his girlfriend. This might be one of the best lines ever from a guy:
T: I really want to see you. The reason I haven't been able to see you is because my feelings for you haven't changed Nic. When I think of you I still have the same feelings and I am not sure that if I saw you that I would be able to say no to jumping into bed with you...
Me: Ummmmm and since when would I be asking?
T: You know what I mean
Me: No I don't. I figured getting together for a drink actually meant getting together for a drink...Silly me.
WTF????? Men!!!!
I think I might scrap all men this weekend and just go out and play...I think it is what I really want. Well that and a Sunday Funday! Wish me luck!
PS - I have Noxema in my gym bag for after workouts to put on my face. I dare anyone to smell Noxema and not think about growing up and sunburns! I swear I felt like I was 7 at the beach with my family after putting that on today!
I let him know that we could postpone Saturday night because he would be tired, but he said no it was fine "as long as I don't mind a chill night". OK, here's the thing...I do! It is Saturday night. The night for fun, not the night for chill. This is our 4th date and a Saturday night. We should be going out for dinner and drinks and getting drunk and making out inappropriately on street corners, not laying on his couch watching movies...that is for like 6 months into a relationship not 3 weeks!
I also had a girl's night offer from some really fun girls I know, so I am not sure if it is just that I don't want to miss out on that (to be honest, I am not really that into it, so I don't think it is that). Am I being ridiculous? Is it normal to feel like this?
I emailed him and told him we should just play it by ear and see how he feels. What I really mean is "let's play it by ear and see how I feel". If I want to tear it up tomorrow night then I am going to.
Here is my other thought though. Sunday Funday seems to be calling my name this week, so maybe a chill Saturday night would be good, so that early brunch is possible on Sunday.
I know, I know...my life is so tough. I guess if my plans for Saturday night are my biggest worry then I really shouldn't be complaining. I think I am just venting...not complaining. At the end of the day we all know I am going to do what I want to do anyway. I just wish I knew what that was!
Tonight I am heading out with D & SIL for dinner and drinks and then more drinks and then more drinks. I haven't seen SIL in a long time and D and I thought she could probably use a night on the town. It should be good times.
I have worked out twice today already and I feel like I could go again. This hot yoga really gives you energy. I could have ran forever at the gym this afternoon. For the record EngagedGuy from previous post was not at the gym today though he did Facebook chat with me first thing this morning. The whole thing is weird. Also, weierd is his buddy is the guy I ran into at the gym last week (and who has been trying for 5 years). While EngagedGuy was chatting his buddy also started Facebook chatting with me! They were probably on the phone with each other conspiring to drive me mad! Further proof that the gym is a bad place where bad things happen! I might have to stick to my apartment gym. Everyone ignores each other there!
I also have a guy who I dated a few times getting in on the texting and Facebook chatting fury that has been happening. We will call him Welshie. This is a relationship that basically moved into friends with benefits (or at least he thought). Now that I am showing no interest he is all over me. Always the way. I am going to do this with every guy from now on. Actually I am going to turn super stalker psycho on the guys I don't like in the hopes that they will go away!
Did I mention that T has been texting and wanting to get together too?? Ya, now that he is basically living with his girlfriend. This might be one of the best lines ever from a guy:
T: I really want to see you. The reason I haven't been able to see you is because my feelings for you haven't changed Nic. When I think of you I still have the same feelings and I am not sure that if I saw you that I would be able to say no to jumping into bed with you...
Me: Ummmmm and since when would I be asking?
T: You know what I mean
Me: No I don't. I figured getting together for a drink actually meant getting together for a drink...Silly me.
WTF????? Men!!!!
I think I might scrap all men this weekend and just go out and play...I think it is what I really want. Well that and a Sunday Funday! Wish me luck!
PS - I have Noxema in my gym bag for after workouts to put on my face. I dare anyone to smell Noxema and not think about growing up and sunburns! I swear I felt like I was 7 at the beach with my family after putting that on today!
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