Ya, I decided I was well overdue for a post. Last time I wrote I was lamenting the dating scene (a recurring theme in my life). Since then not a whole lot has changed except that I haven't really been dating. I have been pursued by about every ex I have ever had - this is also a recurring them in my life. I am not sure why, but for about 2 weeks every 6 months every ex I have ever had comes out of the woodwork and gets in touch. They are always in it for the same thing too...yup, sex! I don't get it (well, I guess I do in a way - I am a tiger in the sack after all), but what do these guys think? We obviously don't see each other for a reason - why would I jump into bed with you just because you are experiencing a dry spell? Do they think women are that dumb and easy? Let's be serious here...every woman (OK, 98% of women) can get laid any time any day they want. I could go into any Starbucks in the city right now and be shagging a random within an hour guaranteed (and I am wearing ugly jeans and flats right now and didn't wash my hair this morning). Obviously this isn't the case for men. As women we hold the proverbial sex stop sign. I don't need a random text after midnight asking to "get together sometime" - you are about as transparent as Scotch Tape my friend!
It doesn't help that when I relayed this information to my nothing-but-platonic ex T he told me that people get what they put out to others. Essentially telling me I put out some sort of drunken slut vibe. Good to know! In his defense I don't think that's how he meant it and he did send me an "I'm sorry" text the next day. This could also be because he has been laid up for the past 4 weeks and won't be better for another 2-3 months and I am his main life line for companionship. Actually, I think I am important for one main thing to him - I am his bringer of booze (hard to make trips to the liquor store on crutches!) Anyway, that was kind of beside the story - interesting guy information though and I have to say I don't think he is entirely wrong!
On that note I am not drinking for the next 4-6 weeks. I had already made this decision prior to T's proclamation, so don't think I care that much about what he says...I am back dieting and trying to drop 15-20 pounds before the start of bikini season. Just a little dust off really.
Anyway, there was a random bump in with an ex who has been on my mind a lot lately, so that exchange was not discouraged. He was probably my one and only whirlwind relationship. Super intense for the 3 months we were together. We had an instant attraction, a ton of fun together and he got along with all of my friends and family. There were some problems, the main one being his work schedule was not in tune with mine and we never saw each other, so I didn't see the point of carrying on. The weirdest part of this relationship is once we called it off we never spoke. That is odd for me. I think I may have a need for people to like me no matter what. Probably explains K & T still being two of my best friends! Anyway, we bumped into each other in a bar last week and ended up hanging out all night and catching up. It was really good to see him and he obviously felt the same way. We have been talking since, but I quickly got suspicious that something wasn't quite right. My suspicions were correct and as far as I can tell he is dating someone. I am not sure if it is serious or what is going on there, but we are meeting early next week to talk about things. I am wondering if I should just walk away though. I don't need the drama and I am not into fighting for a guy - especially one I already had and discarded. He is good, but not THAT good. I have the weekend of boring sobriety to ponder where this will go.
I am not sure if I am going to keep the posting up or not, but feel free to check back and see how much my dating life sucks in the coming months!
Friday, April 25, 2008
Monday, January 21, 2008
Full Circle
When I started blogging many many moons ago it was an idea that J, an ex coworker, gave me. He figured my life was so crazy that I needed a forum to keep track of the craziness, which at the time involved a lot of dating and even more partying. It was definitely at the height of my wild years. In the last 2 years I have slowed down quite a bit - one has to grow up sometime! I am definitely not a saint now, but comparatively I would say I am now down to about 25% of the craziness that once was. Anyway, my point being that I have recently stuck my big toe back into the dating pool. Again, this is about 25% of what I was blogging about many years ago when not only did I have my big toe in the dating pool, but I had dove in face first and had no problems blogging about most any detail of all of these dates, which was usually fun because I had my fair share of ridiculous you-will-never-believe-what-happened-on-my-date-last-night kind of stories.
I am not one to go into major detail anymore - for my own privacy because let's be serious I don't care about the privacy of a random guy I decided to have lunch with. Anyway, I had a grand total of 3 dates last week (2 on the same day...I know, horrible, but one was postponed from a previous day, so there wasn't much I could do).
Date 1: Pros: cute, nice, easy to talk to, funny, admired me plenty (c'mon, it's nice once in a while), paid for lunch
Cons: Recently seperated, 2 kids (one is a TEENAGER), lives in a far off suburb (I don't own a vehicle to get out to said suburb and really wouldn't ever want to visit there anyway), seemed to be trying to impress me a little too much, hasn't dated really ever (was married young)
We spoke yesterday and I gave him my post date feedback (this is also something that has changed since my younger years - back then if I didn't want to see the person again I would just avoid their calls and hope they would disappear from the face of the earth - now I am honest about how I feel - go figure! My results of this approach have been mixed and to be honest I think it is easier to go the avoid route and I may go back to that at some point soon) I let him know that the cons (as listed above) were probably going to prevent us from ever having a relationship that would be anything meaningful and even though I did liked him and there was a bit of a spark at lunch I don't really want to waste anyone's time (translation: I don't want to waste MY time). End result: I am going out with him for lunch sometime this week - see being honest just gives them a chance to talk you into more dates! ARGH!
Date 2: Pros: I got drunk on the date (probably not a pro for him, but a bonus for me - I only had a couple glasss of wine, but that was coupled with no food and not much in the drinking department these days and next thing you know I am telling him my deepest, darkest secrets!), he was nice, decent looking, able to hold a conversation.
Cons: I paid for all of my drinks (and half the food we shared), I wasn't sure I was physically attracted to him, he asked to see me again the next night (a little too soon, wouldn't you say??)
The aftermath: I woke up hungover on Friday and had to make my bleary-eyed way to the office. He texted me to say thanks for a good night and we have to do it again. I would be open to it, but wouldn't go out of my way to make other plans. He called yesterday and left me a message to say hi. I have yet to call him back. Undecided on this one still.
Date 3: Pros: Tall, good looking, doctor, great personality (we have 2 hour phone conversations really easily), funny, interesting past, easy to talk to, honest, did I mention tall???
Cons: didn't get a romantic feeling from the date at all - it seemed like two old friends catching up over a quick lunch. It was a lunch date though, so it isn't exactly a romantic setting and to be honest, i was pretty wrapped up in the big screen showing football playoffs in front of me. I am sure that impressed him. We left it at "we should do this again", which I am fairly certain means we will never see each other again, which makes me sad because he is a doctor that I am in need of right now and he actually said he could end my ankle issues for me. Maybe I should book an appointment with him - OK, that would be very stalkerish...scratch that!
After lunch with #3 I went straight to T's for more football and a couple beers. Having a fall back is probably not a good thing, but it does make me realize one thing. I shouldn't be dating right now. I am still in love with T and it isn't fair for any of these guys when in reality they don't really have a wholehearted chance with me because I am not 100% into dating when I know I have T there that is really like a boyfriend, just not one I see 5 days a week. T and I went out on Friday night and he made a comment about how he had texted me the night before and for the first time since we had known each other I didn't respond. I told him I had been on a date and that's why I didn't respond. That threw him for a bit of a loop, but we aren't in a place to not see other people, so he was understanding. I think it has made him a wee bit more attentive too! haha - always the way.
So there is the mess that is my mind (and heart) right now.
The weekend was an awesome one! Friday night, T and I had a great date - drive in the car, dinner out and then back to his place to relax in bed with TV and an early night.
Saturday (for the second weekend in a row) I was up bright and early to head home and get geared up for our new "Girl's Adventure Club" outing. Last weekend it was snowshoeing, this week was skiing. I hadn't skiied in a LONG time (over 10 years), so I was a little apprehensive, but I have been wanting to get back into it for the last few years, so I figured this was a good time to do it. I am so glad I did. It was amazing! The day ended up being gorgeous - sunny and warm and the powder was the best I had ever skiied in. The parts that sucked: tweaking my already sprained ankle...AGAIN, ending up on a black diamond on the first run of the day (not fun at all!) and bruising my shin horribly from bad rental boots. The best parts: the weather, the great company of the girls (amazing what stories can come out on a quad chair!) and the cold beer with lunch! Oh also girls in Vancouver - never complain about no men in this city - go skiing on a Saturday...good lord the talent was everywhere and we were outnumbered at least 5 to 1. Even if you don't ski go buy yourself a hot little ski number and rent some boots and just walk around the pub for a few hours - I am telling you, you won't be disappointed!
We headed back to the city somewhat early because we all had appointments - I went and booked myself an appointment on Thursday afternoon for hair extensions!!! I could not be more excited! I am really sick of the too short hair and decided I can't wait to grow it out, so problem solved. Jilly accompanied me and after we headed into Yaletown - all the girls were getting a Blo and because I have no hair anymore I went next door and got my makeup done instead in preparation for the big girl's night that night.
I went home and got a bunch of food and booze ready and then waited as about 12 girls came by for a night of food and wine. It was a total blast. The night made me realize I know A LOT of blondes. Of the 12 girls, there were 2 brunettes (one is Asian, so you can't even really count her) and the rest...all blondes! Very bizarre. We went to Glowbal for a bit and then on to Bar Yawn where my sprained ankle was getting in the way of my enjoyment so I headed home. Walking in my stilettos on the sprained ankle was not fun at all. I got home and crashed.
Yesterday was doctor date and then T's for football and beer.
Update: The Good Doctor (TGD) just texted me, so perhaps that was a heartfelt :we should do this again". I was going to leave it up to him to contact me and he has, so we'll see what happens. I would really enjoy it if he would fix my ankle for me. I wonder if that is like a 3rd date request????
I am not one to go into major detail anymore - for my own privacy because let's be serious I don't care about the privacy of a random guy I decided to have lunch with. Anyway, I had a grand total of 3 dates last week (2 on the same day...I know, horrible, but one was postponed from a previous day, so there wasn't much I could do).
Date 1: Pros: cute, nice, easy to talk to, funny, admired me plenty (c'mon, it's nice once in a while), paid for lunch
Cons: Recently seperated, 2 kids (one is a TEENAGER), lives in a far off suburb (I don't own a vehicle to get out to said suburb and really wouldn't ever want to visit there anyway), seemed to be trying to impress me a little too much, hasn't dated really ever (was married young)
We spoke yesterday and I gave him my post date feedback (this is also something that has changed since my younger years - back then if I didn't want to see the person again I would just avoid their calls and hope they would disappear from the face of the earth - now I am honest about how I feel - go figure! My results of this approach have been mixed and to be honest I think it is easier to go the avoid route and I may go back to that at some point soon) I let him know that the cons (as listed above) were probably going to prevent us from ever having a relationship that would be anything meaningful and even though I did liked him and there was a bit of a spark at lunch I don't really want to waste anyone's time (translation: I don't want to waste MY time). End result: I am going out with him for lunch sometime this week - see being honest just gives them a chance to talk you into more dates! ARGH!
Date 2: Pros: I got drunk on the date (probably not a pro for him, but a bonus for me - I only had a couple glasss of wine, but that was coupled with no food and not much in the drinking department these days and next thing you know I am telling him my deepest, darkest secrets!), he was nice, decent looking, able to hold a conversation.
Cons: I paid for all of my drinks (and half the food we shared), I wasn't sure I was physically attracted to him, he asked to see me again the next night (a little too soon, wouldn't you say??)
The aftermath: I woke up hungover on Friday and had to make my bleary-eyed way to the office. He texted me to say thanks for a good night and we have to do it again. I would be open to it, but wouldn't go out of my way to make other plans. He called yesterday and left me a message to say hi. I have yet to call him back. Undecided on this one still.
Date 3: Pros: Tall, good looking, doctor, great personality (we have 2 hour phone conversations really easily), funny, interesting past, easy to talk to, honest, did I mention tall???
Cons: didn't get a romantic feeling from the date at all - it seemed like two old friends catching up over a quick lunch. It was a lunch date though, so it isn't exactly a romantic setting and to be honest, i was pretty wrapped up in the big screen showing football playoffs in front of me. I am sure that impressed him. We left it at "we should do this again", which I am fairly certain means we will never see each other again, which makes me sad because he is a doctor that I am in need of right now and he actually said he could end my ankle issues for me. Maybe I should book an appointment with him - OK, that would be very stalkerish...scratch that!
After lunch with #3 I went straight to T's for more football and a couple beers. Having a fall back is probably not a good thing, but it does make me realize one thing. I shouldn't be dating right now. I am still in love with T and it isn't fair for any of these guys when in reality they don't really have a wholehearted chance with me because I am not 100% into dating when I know I have T there that is really like a boyfriend, just not one I see 5 days a week. T and I went out on Friday night and he made a comment about how he had texted me the night before and for the first time since we had known each other I didn't respond. I told him I had been on a date and that's why I didn't respond. That threw him for a bit of a loop, but we aren't in a place to not see other people, so he was understanding. I think it has made him a wee bit more attentive too! haha - always the way.
So there is the mess that is my mind (and heart) right now.
The weekend was an awesome one! Friday night, T and I had a great date - drive in the car, dinner out and then back to his place to relax in bed with TV and an early night.
Saturday (for the second weekend in a row) I was up bright and early to head home and get geared up for our new "Girl's Adventure Club" outing. Last weekend it was snowshoeing, this week was skiing. I hadn't skiied in a LONG time (over 10 years), so I was a little apprehensive, but I have been wanting to get back into it for the last few years, so I figured this was a good time to do it. I am so glad I did. It was amazing! The day ended up being gorgeous - sunny and warm and the powder was the best I had ever skiied in. The parts that sucked: tweaking my already sprained ankle...AGAIN, ending up on a black diamond on the first run of the day (not fun at all!) and bruising my shin horribly from bad rental boots. The best parts: the weather, the great company of the girls (amazing what stories can come out on a quad chair!) and the cold beer with lunch! Oh also girls in Vancouver - never complain about no men in this city - go skiing on a Saturday...good lord the talent was everywhere and we were outnumbered at least 5 to 1. Even if you don't ski go buy yourself a hot little ski number and rent some boots and just walk around the pub for a few hours - I am telling you, you won't be disappointed!
We headed back to the city somewhat early because we all had appointments - I went and booked myself an appointment on Thursday afternoon for hair extensions!!! I could not be more excited! I am really sick of the too short hair and decided I can't wait to grow it out, so problem solved. Jilly accompanied me and after we headed into Yaletown - all the girls were getting a Blo and because I have no hair anymore I went next door and got my makeup done instead in preparation for the big girl's night that night.
I went home and got a bunch of food and booze ready and then waited as about 12 girls came by for a night of food and wine. It was a total blast. The night made me realize I know A LOT of blondes. Of the 12 girls, there were 2 brunettes (one is Asian, so you can't even really count her) and the rest...all blondes! Very bizarre. We went to Glowbal for a bit and then on to Bar Yawn where my sprained ankle was getting in the way of my enjoyment so I headed home. Walking in my stilettos on the sprained ankle was not fun at all. I got home and crashed.
Yesterday was doctor date and then T's for football and beer.
Update: The Good Doctor (TGD) just texted me, so perhaps that was a heartfelt :we should do this again". I was going to leave it up to him to contact me and he has, so we'll see what happens. I would really enjoy it if he would fix my ankle for me. I wonder if that is like a 3rd date request????
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Really?
Cancun rocked. It wasn't long enough (though my stomach would tell you otherwise). The weather wasn't amazing. The golf carts on a secluded island very drunk were. Hanging with the ex was fine. Eating at Margaritaville wasn't. The vodka pineapples rocked. The Jagermesiter didn't. New Years was awesome. Lying in bed all night alone 2 nights later wasn't. Braids will never be in fashion unless you invent a time machine and go back to 1979 and run with Bo Derek in 10.
Also, I am tired, so very tired and want to hibernate the rest of the winter. It is going to be a few months of not a lot. I am thinking the next big day for me will be Super Bowl. It is going to be soooo good this year!
Also, if you are a guy and you HAVE to own a cat you shouldn't really post pictures of them or you with them on any website of any sort...least of all a dating site! Yikes!
Also, sever dehydration is no fun at all!
What is even less fun? Kitchen fires and cleaning up a mess left by a fire extinguisher. Though I am very thankful I had said extinguisher now and it is on my immediate to do list to go out and replace the one I used to extinguish my toaster oven and kitchen cupboards. Shhhhh...don't tell Kris about this!!
Also, I am tired, so very tired and want to hibernate the rest of the winter. It is going to be a few months of not a lot. I am thinking the next big day for me will be Super Bowl. It is going to be soooo good this year!
Also, if you are a guy and you HAVE to own a cat you shouldn't really post pictures of them or you with them on any website of any sort...least of all a dating site! Yikes!
Also, sever dehydration is no fun at all!
What is even less fun? Kitchen fires and cleaning up a mess left by a fire extinguisher. Though I am very thankful I had said extinguisher now and it is on my immediate to do list to go out and replace the one I used to extinguish my toaster oven and kitchen cupboards. Shhhhh...don't tell Kris about this!!
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