Full Circle

When I started blogging many many moons ago it was an idea that J, an ex coworker, gave me. He figured my life was so crazy that I needed a forum to keep track of the craziness, which at the time involved a lot of dating and even more partying. It was definitely at the height of my wild years. In the last 2 years I have slowed down quite a bit - one has to grow up sometime! I am definitely not a saint now, but comparatively I would say I am now down to about 25% of the craziness that once was. Anyway, my point being that I have recently stuck my big toe back into the dating pool. Again, this is about 25% of what I was blogging about many years ago when not only did I have my big toe in the dating pool, but I had dove in face first and had no problems blogging about most any detail of all of these dates, which was usually fun because I had my fair share of ridiculous you-will-never-believe-what-happened-on-my-date-last-night kind of stories.

I am not one to go into major detail anymore - for my own privacy because let's be serious I don't care about the privacy of a random guy I decided to have lunch with. Anyway, I had a grand total of 3 dates last week (2 on the same day...I know, horrible, but one was postponed from a previous day, so there wasn't much I could do).

Date 1: Pros: cute, nice, easy to talk to, funny, admired me plenty (c'mon, it's nice once in a while), paid for lunch
Cons: Recently seperated, 2 kids (one is a TEENAGER), lives in a far off suburb (I don't own a vehicle to get out to said suburb and really wouldn't ever want to visit there anyway), seemed to be trying to impress me a little too much, hasn't dated really ever (was married young)

We spoke yesterday and I gave him my post date feedback (this is also something that has changed since my younger years - back then if I didn't want to see the person again I would just avoid their calls and hope they would disappear from the face of the earth - now I am honest about how I feel - go figure! My results of this approach have been mixed and to be honest I think it is easier to go the avoid route and I may go back to that at some point soon) I let him know that the cons (as listed above) were probably going to prevent us from ever having a relationship that would be anything meaningful and even though I did liked him and there was a bit of a spark at lunch I don't really want to waste anyone's time (translation: I don't want to waste MY time). End result: I am going out with him for lunch sometime this week - see being honest just gives them a chance to talk you into more dates! ARGH!

Date 2: Pros: I got drunk on the date (probably not a pro for him, but a bonus for me - I only had a couple glasss of wine, but that was coupled with no food and not much in the drinking department these days and next thing you know I am telling him my deepest, darkest secrets!), he was nice, decent looking, able to hold a conversation.
Cons: I paid for all of my drinks (and half the food we shared), I wasn't sure I was physically attracted to him, he asked to see me again the next night (a little too soon, wouldn't you say??)
The aftermath: I woke up hungover on Friday and had to make my bleary-eyed way to the office. He texted me to say thanks for a good night and we have to do it again. I would be open to it, but wouldn't go out of my way to make other plans. He called yesterday and left me a message to say hi. I have yet to call him back. Undecided on this one still.

Date 3: Pros: Tall, good looking, doctor, great personality (we have 2 hour phone conversations really easily), funny, interesting past, easy to talk to, honest, did I mention tall???
Cons: didn't get a romantic feeling from the date at all - it seemed like two old friends catching up over a quick lunch. It was a lunch date though, so it isn't exactly a romantic setting and to be honest, i was pretty wrapped up in the big screen showing football playoffs in front of me. I am sure that impressed him. We left it at "we should do this again", which I am fairly certain means we will never see each other again, which makes me sad because he is a doctor that I am in need of right now and he actually said he could end my ankle issues for me. Maybe I should book an appointment with him - OK, that would be very stalkerish...scratch that!

After lunch with #3 I went straight to T's for more football and a couple beers. Having a fall back is probably not a good thing, but it does make me realize one thing. I shouldn't be dating right now. I am still in love with T and it isn't fair for any of these guys when in reality they don't really have a wholehearted chance with me because I am not 100% into dating when I know I have T there that is really like a boyfriend, just not one I see 5 days a week. T and I went out on Friday night and he made a comment about how he had texted me the night before and for the first time since we had known each other I didn't respond. I told him I had been on a date and that's why I didn't respond. That threw him for a bit of a loop, but we aren't in a place to not see other people, so he was understanding. I think it has made him a wee bit more attentive too! haha - always the way.

So there is the mess that is my mind (and heart) right now.

The weekend was an awesome one! Friday night, T and I had a great date - drive in the car, dinner out and then back to his place to relax in bed with TV and an early night.

Saturday (for the second weekend in a row) I was up bright and early to head home and get geared up for our new "Girl's Adventure Club" outing. Last weekend it was snowshoeing, this week was skiing. I hadn't skiied in a LONG time (over 10 years), so I was a little apprehensive, but I have been wanting to get back into it for the last few years, so I figured this was a good time to do it. I am so glad I did. It was amazing! The day ended up being gorgeous - sunny and warm and the powder was the best I had ever skiied in. The parts that sucked: tweaking my already sprained ankle...AGAIN, ending up on a black diamond on the first run of the day (not fun at all!) and bruising my shin horribly from bad rental boots. The best parts: the weather, the great company of the girls (amazing what stories can come out on a quad chair!) and the cold beer with lunch! Oh also girls in Vancouver - never complain about no men in this city - go skiing on a Saturday...good lord the talent was everywhere and we were outnumbered at least 5 to 1. Even if you don't ski go buy yourself a hot little ski number and rent some boots and just walk around the pub for a few hours - I am telling you, you won't be disappointed!

We headed back to the city somewhat early because we all had appointments - I went and booked myself an appointment on Thursday afternoon for hair extensions!!! I could not be more excited! I am really sick of the too short hair and decided I can't wait to grow it out, so problem solved. Jilly accompanied me and after we headed into Yaletown - all the girls were getting a Blo and because I have no hair anymore I went next door and got my makeup done instead in preparation for the big girl's night that night.

I went home and got a bunch of food and booze ready and then waited as about 12 girls came by for a night of food and wine. It was a total blast. The night made me realize I know A LOT of blondes. Of the 12 girls, there were 2 brunettes (one is Asian, so you can't even really count her) and the rest...all blondes! Very bizarre. We went to Glowbal for a bit and then on to Bar Yawn where my sprained ankle was getting in the way of my enjoyment so I headed home. Walking in my stilettos on the sprained ankle was not fun at all. I got home and crashed.

Yesterday was doctor date and then T's for football and beer.

Update: The Good Doctor (TGD) just texted me, so perhaps that was a heartfelt :we should do this again". I was going to leave it up to him to contact me and he has, so we'll see what happens. I would really enjoy it if he would fix my ankle for me. I wonder if that is like a 3rd date request????